Thursday, March 26, 2015

To Bully or Not To Bully

To Bully or Not To Bully

Editor-in-Chief: Sonya LaRae

Senior Editor: Nile Harper

Article by: Sonya LaRae- Certified Lifestyle Coach, Certified Image Consultant, Fashion/Style Journalist

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Hello LaPazions, I guess this topic has really been on my mind with so much we’ve been seeing/hearing in the media as of late. We have seen many of our A-lister’s in these nasty bullying scenarios. Poor behavior after poor behavior, such mean girl isms/tactics, which are becoming more and more disturbing and somewhat of a “Norm” (I’ll come back and revisit this).  

One morning I happen to have the television on in my office and the morning talk show “The Real” with Loni Love, Tamar Braxton, Adrienne Bailon, Jeannie Mai and Tamera Mowry-Housley came on:The RealThe ladies started discussing the topic regarding bullying, and Tamara Braxton, started to cry and spoke of someone who was “Bulling” her and was calling her a Muppet. Per Tamar “This was taking a toll on her” and, Tamar was noticeably upset and shared “how it was making her feel less beautiful, how she even asked her husband/manager Vincent Herbert if she looked like a Muppet?”

I felt bad for her- but, in the same breath I know for a fact , that Tamar and this other person (singer/Reality star) K. Michelle; had a very open and ugly beef and exchange of some horrible insults via social media (Twitter) as well as, on a popular radio show “The Breakfast Club” a few months back. Needless to say even their fans got involved and this ugly mess has taken on a whole other life of its own:Tamar and K MichelleHere is the thing, both ladies have played the mean girl and have taken self-worth from each other but, both ladies are calling foul and one is feeling more victimized then the other. Unfortunately, they both are victims of jealousy and being down right just point blank MEAN. These ladies are talented in their own right and neither has anything to be jealous of the other. I think they need to grow up stop trying to shame or in the words of Tamar “Shade” each other and acknowledge they both are wrong and move on. 

In recent months there has been so much bullying happening in the media that, it’s rather draining and seems to becoming the new it thing. If you don’t have some sort of negativity you just aren’t famous enough.

Even the media has gotten in on this type of behavior, by resorting to such things as “Fat Shaming” celebrities if they don’t fit the so called “body-image” of what they consider as normal perfect example is singer Kelly Clarkson:Kelly ClarksonVery well known host of a hot fashion show “Fashion Police” Giuliana Rancic stating something very hurtful and mean toward Disney Star Zendaya Coleman:Giuliana and ZendayaAmber Rose and Khloe Kardashian airing all of their dirty laundry and saying such vial things toward each other plus members of ones family:Amber Rose and Khloe KardashianI was wondering what message is this really sending and, where will the line be drawn regarding this matter? Is it okay to be mean, because maybe you have a small fact about a person that you want to air? Maybe you feel justified because, you see how they have become “famous” and you don’t approve? Maybe you feel entitle to your opinion and how dare anyone else be offended that you said something? Could it be that you are just simply jealous? Whatever the scenario is it’s point blank unacceptable behavior.

In my professional opinion; people who are bullying others have something that they don’t like about themselves and they are trying to take that negative energy out on someone else, to deflect from the bigger picture, which is their own short comings, self loathing and insecurities.

What I would like to see in the future, is where the media outlets wouldn’t bring attention to this negative behavior by placing it as one of there top stories of the evening. I’d love to see where such behavior isn’t rewarded by being the subject of a hot topic on entertainment television and to keep the mean girl persona’s off the air. This type of behavior and action cannot become the “normalcy” in how to handle your disputes with another person, as well as, giving the message to our very impressionable younger generation this is how we are to settle things with our peers.

It’s time to grow up take accountability and settle your differences as adults not spoiled little mean girls.

I cannot wait to hear your feedback and your thoughts on this topic.

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