By: Sonya LaRae - Fashion Psychologist - Lapazimageing Fashion Forward
Associate Editor: Nelson Nirmond - Lapazimageing Fashion Forward
Stop Dressing Like Everyone Else: Create Your Own Style Identity
Tired of blending in? Learn how to develop a personal style that reflects you - without chasing every trend. Simple, clear, actionable advice.
Why Most People Fall Into The Style Copycat Trap:
Many people unknowingly dress like carbon copies because it feels safe. Trends give the illusion of belonging and acceptance. Scrolling social media or shopping at fast-fashion retailers encourages sameness. What's trending gets bought, worn, and posted - again and again. But here's the truth: copying style doesn't equal having one. Personal style is about decisions based on who you are, not what's trending.
I find so many times that when clients ask constantly, "Does this look good on me?" instead of "Does this feel like me?" You're outsourcing your style to someone else's taste. Fitting in isn't the same as standing out. And most people crave recognition - not repetition. Breaking out of the trap starts with awareness. So, ask yourself - When was the last time your outfit made you feel seen, not just stylish?
You have to admit that is a very powerful question and it causes you to start to reevaluate your style and how it resonates with your inner self. See, the goal isn't to avoid fashion trends entirely. It's to use them with intention - not imitation. When your wardrobe stops being a mirror of everyone else's and starts reflecting who you are that's when style becomes personal.
Reconnect With What Inspires You:
Dig into your interest and influences - Your style shouldn't be based only on what's in or hot. I like to help client to build from what lights them up - like art, music, cities, icons, or even architecture. Think of your influences beyond clothes - A great example of this is think about what you love i.e. bold jazz-era vibes, minimalist interiors, or Afro-futuristic art these are a few great areas to start from and to pull inspiration from.
What you may not realize is that these preferences carry natural aesthetic cues. Once you're clear on what draws you in, style becomes a visual language you can fluently speak.
Lapazions, jot down 5 things that inspire you. Then ask: "How can this show up in my outfits?" Your interest are a goldmine for authentic style, that you need to tap into and use to your style advantage that creates your personal style and persona.
Edit Your Closet with Purpose:
Keep only what reflects you - Most wardrobes are cluttered with maybes, somedays and, not yeses. To stop looking like everyone else, you need to get selective. Pull everything out. One by one, ask: "Do I feel like myself in this?" If the answer isn't an easy yes, it's a no. Choose items that align with your inspiration, your lifestyle, and your identity. When your closet becomes a reflection of you - not trends - it's easier to get dressed with confidence and ease.
What To Do To Break the Carbon Copycat?
Pick 2-3 Elements That Define You: Signature style isn't about having a uniform it's about consistent elements that feel like your trademark. This could be:
* A certain color palette
* Statement earrings or pieces
* Layered neutrals
* Structured blazers
* Vintage jackets, denim, or cardigans
Pick 2-3 core elements and repeat them with variations. These become recognizable traits that express your identity - subtly and stylishly. When you can describe your style in a sentence, you've nailed it. Lapazions, style goes beyond fabric, it's how you carry yourself, how you speak, and how you move. Your scent, your grooming, your posture - all of it adds layers to your personal aesthetic.
If you are struggling to identify your signature style and need help - book a strategy session today and let's being building out your signature style together:
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